\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n An extraordinary but dense read for someone relatively unschooled in any formal queer theory (this coming even from a queer person, such as myself) -- but filled with such intelligence and humanity this book is a must read for anyone interested in evolving their point of view towards a more authentic and sincere understanding and appreciation of the complexities of sexuality. By focusing on white, straight sexuality and its cultural sphere, the author delves deep into the formation of how whiteness and straightness have been concocted out of a larger swath of human expression, so we end up learning about our society as whole, not just white, straight men. One crucial point: this book is for anybody interested in race / sexuality studies.I realise that the author does not want to use the discussion in her work about whether people are actually gay or straight (sic), but to ignore the role of bisexuality (not merely whether people are bisexual, but more the whole issue of the problematic nature of identifying as bisexual, and sustaining a bisexual identity) within this is a fundamental and critical omission.The final critique is that some of the activities recounted in the work, during hazing etc., I see as violence and humiliation, not sexual - obviously BDSM, kink etc. Some of the conclusions were a bit far-fetched, but they certainly made you think outside the box.
As someone who is in the very rare position of having done a large study of straight identifying men who have sex with men that has tried to break out of the racialised stereotypes that characterise this type of research, any research which shifts this racialised discourse is very, very welcome.Every single one has the same two reactions: one, it's too bad there's no straight version of that, and two, a straight version would never work.Well, now we have a chance to find out if they were all right, because the people behind Grindr have just released Blendr, the heterosexual version with an infinitely unsexier name.Thirdly, the over characterisation of misogyny and violence as central to this activity is naively handled.I have seen a great deal of misogyny and violence in gay and lesbian sexual behaviour.