Unfortunately, even some doctors may wind up misinforming their patients or not informing them enough about how herpes is transmitted.
And remind yourself that YOU DID THE RIGHT THING by telling them, regardless of what their reaction was.
However, both you and your partner should also be aware that there is no way to absolutely guarantee that transmission won’t take place (short of total abstinence from all sexual contact).
Here is a four-fold strategy that you can use that will definitely reduce the risk: A.
You can read more about asymptomatic viral shedding here. You have been sexually intimate with someone and you thought you took all the precautions, asked all the right questions and you felt confident that you weren’t putting yourself at risk for getting any STDs.
Then suddenly you learn that your partner has herpes.